Colleagues

2011 was a year in which I met and maintained professional relationships with many people I am proud to know. Writing about mail last week set me to thinking about what I have learned about making contacts (but more personal than that) with colleagues inside and outside your profession. I think this has become very important for both Jen and myself, and I feel as though we are much better at meeting people and initiating relationships than we once were. So, indulge me as I share five brief thoughts I have after meeting some great people and making new relationships within my profession.



First, be genuine. This is key. Don’t speak to someone just because they are famous, or cool. This ties in nicely with my third point, but if you hear someone speaking, etc. that is cool and you have a shared interest/something good to speak with them about, then go for it. People can read disingenuousness quickly, and might leave a bad taste in their mouth. Don’t force the conversation, either - let it bloom and take you somewhere. You might have a shared favorite band, or mutual friend. Yes, meeting the person as a professional contact is the reason you are speaking with them, but that only will not sustain a relationship. Be personal and genuine.

Second, if you see someone you want to meet, talk to them and find out their story. Why do you want to meet them? Keep this in mind, listen to their story, adapt it for yourself, and follow it. I am not saying just follow in their footsteps, but identify the things they did well that you should incorporate into your own career and growth.

Third, identifying a shared interest or specialization is important to have a worthwhile, long lasting relationship. You’ve got to have something to talk about other than work, right? Make mental notes of these, and write it down on their card. This will help in the future. Who did you meet them with, where, when, etc? These will all help in getting familiar with your new friend.

Fourth, Staying in touch is key. Follow up via an email or a handwritten note (much preferred) two to three says after meeting the person, or shortly after you get home if you are away. After the initial contact, keep up communication through email or other opportunities. A fun one which has been a recent opportunity for contact has been a library exchange program between my library and other libraries throughout the country. It’s fun to say hello to colleagues and extend them a nice professional courtesy as well.

Fifth, be real, caring, and interested. Just say hello from time to time, visit when you are in the same place as your colleague, and reciprocate gifts and contact whenever possible. Though you might not be best friends, it’s important to be a caring, connected colleague.

Finally, listen! Other people always have something good to say, so pay attention to it.

And in the spirit of the last point, I would love to hear what you have to say about networking! Any comments, tips, et cetera?